A brothers visit

Yes, my brother has finally made it here for his visit. I am happy to see him, but often when my brother or sister come to visit there are childhood issues that seem to need to be talked about. A lot of this is because as children and young adults we did not talk about them, much less to each other or our mom. Now as adults and all of us getting older I think we understand that clearing the air is important. None of us want to ever be in that place where we are saying "I should have said this, or I wish I had told them that". We have come to understand that the abuse effected us all in very different ways and to understand each other we must hear each others side. Yes, this is a painful process, but it is necessary for us to make the most of what we have as a family. Hearing each others pain is hard but in some sence it is healing, as we no longer have to hide or watch what we say around each other. Does it pain me to relive, revisit and talk about our pain, yes. It is a challenge to watch my mothers pain. I still try to remind myself that we are in the places in our lives because of how we have chosen to deal with our childhood. I wish that one person was here to witness this pain and that would be my father, as he is the cause. I wonder how he would react.